With all the discussion as of late, I found it an interesting exercise to try to list the reasons why a chapter, such as CES, needs to be a part of National Tri-Ess.
Having had some time to muse about this brought several ideas to mind, trying to place myself back in the discovery process helped organize my thoughts.
The first thing that jumped out was the help with Why/How - Why do I have these feelings and needs and how did I get that way? When I "discovered" Tri-Ess on the Net I found some of the answers, answers that enabled me to identify myself as a crossdresser, because I truly did not have a clue as to what all these urges and interests in things feminine were all about. Answers that allowed me to "come out" to my wife of 28 years. Answers that allowed me to accept myself, shed those many years of shame, guilt, fear and confusion and to know that having a feminine side was a good thing. I discovered that "how" I came to be who I am was a topic of much controversy. My wife put it in perspective for me. When I told her as much as I knew, she responded with; well, it doesn't hurt anyone, so why not.. Then she asked, "How can I help?"
